I Train All Day

For the  last 10 years I have been a stay at home mom.  On more than one occasion I  have been asked what I do all day.   Um-mm let me see how to phrase this… I train all day.   Not the kind of training you may be thinking about, allow me to explain.  Scripture tells us to train our children in the way they should go, the God way, the truth way, the blood bought way.  Training is not an option.  Because of our inherited sin nature EVERY child, no matter how cute is born with a desire to do wrong.  Everyday I am training and quite frankly it is hard work.    My job is not to tame my children’s sin, instead I have been entrusted with the job of encouraging them to nail it to the cross through submission to Christ.  Training begins with teaching them the word of God, this is the manual. The end goal is beyond nice behaved children. I want them to live knowing that death and judgment is certain for everyone.  So through my training I am encouraging them  to have a right relationship with God so that eternity can be spent with Him.

I train them not only through speaking the word but by living the word through my actions.

  • I train them  to understand that true love disciplines wrong behavior in an effort to prevent worst things from happening.  I choose not to wink at undesired behavior because of love.
  • I train them to be humble and to have a repentant heart when I say sorry (even to them) when I am wrong.
  • I train them to forgive and extend mercy when I forgive their offenses; not constantly reminding them of what they have done wrong. Dish out the consequence for wrongdoing and move on.  Do not look for opportunities to bring up how they missed the mark.

I train not just concerning the spiritual but the natural, but wait… the two are very much connected.

  • I train them to  not be idle and prioritize that which is important when I choose to cook and clean my house instead of spending too much time on social media.  I also give them the opportunity to work with their hands and allow the mess that comes with learning.




  • I train them to understand what  honor  “looks” like when their father comes home to a cooked meal and washed clothes.  When my words are tempered with grace and my eyes aren’t rolling when he says something I don’t want to hear.  They are watching more than I realize, and I have had to apologize more than once.IMG_1883


  • I train them to have responsibilities when I sit in the kitchen  and talk to them for a hour and a half while they clean, a job that I could have done in 30 minutes. Or when I wait for what seems like forever for them to pick up every Lego off the floor and resist the temptation to do it all for them because I can do it faster and betterIMG_1930


  • I train them when I allow them to experience the consequences of their poor choices and not always come to the rescue.  “No I will  not allow you to be late to school because you can’t find your recorder for music class.  I told you the night before to put everything in your bag.  Are you kidding me? There is six of you, I cannot keep up with your stuff. Stop crying and get in the van RIGHT NOW!”  True story, I am not making this up.. oh it’s happened to you too?
  • I train them to love who God created them to be when I  allow them to cry because they just don’t fit in with everyone else.  I say a prayer, wipe the tears and tell them how beautiful and special they are because God said so and I believe Him.


  • I train them to  feel secure through the meals we share as a family at the table.  Letting them know that even with the absence of fine china and a perfectly set table conversations about the highs and lows of our day can flow freely.



  • I train them to know they are loved by putting my to do list on hold and reading a book with them or just being silly and laughing about nothing really important.


  • I train them to know dedication when I take my tired body to bed, wake up the next morning, ready to do it all over again and again and again!

Yes, this training thing is hard work.  The struggle is real but so is God’s love, His grace and His wisdom.  I don’t always do it perfectly.   I continue to learn that God gave us our children to train but certainly is not expecting us to do it on our own. We can do this…because of Christ!



Anika Jones

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Anika Jones

Hello there! I am Anika and I am definitely one of those. Passion oozes from every fiber of my being. I love to love. Sounds cheesy, I know, but I already told you that I am one of those kinds of people. Read on to find out some more interesting facts about me… 1. I love me some Jesus. I love to testify and if you hang around me long enough you may hear me bragging on the awesomeness of God, like how • He gave me a house I couldn't afford • Healed two of my children • Gave me a yes when I wanted to say no 2. I married a younger man…OK, not really. I was 23 while he was 22. My birthday is in April and his in August, but it’s our running joke. Nevertheless, after 13 years of marriage, I happen to love him deeply, and it still makes for a great story. 3. I have experienced the pain of two miscarriages and the joy of delivering 6 children (3 boys and 3 girls). I have both a bachelors and masters degree from the University of Illinois Urbana-Champaign in Early Childhood Education, which I put to good use staying home with the kiddos. 4. I attend an awesome church where my husband is the Assistant Pastor. I am also a part of a not for profit organization that encourages women to walk in their God given purpose. 5. I am addicted to prayer. 6. I am considered nice by most, definitely extreme by design. I am politically incorrect. 7. I take the scenic route when telling a story, but I promise if you hang on long enough, I eventually get to the punch line. 8. I have great ideas but I sometimes procrastinate. Jesus and I are working on that one. 9. I am guilty of overthinking things (refer to number 8). 10. I am originally from Jamaica. Surprise…sunshine and coconuts are two of my favorite things. 11. I subscribe to the Paleo Diet and actually did a round of Whole 30. 12. I love to experiment in the kitchen. 13. I make an absolute mess when I cook. I try to clean as I go but get distracted with cooking. Go figure. (My family doesn't always enjoy my cooking but I make them eat it anyway.) 14. I love people and enjoy talking to them—even the weird ones. I tried being otherwise but found it doesn't suit me well, so I'm learning to be okay with being me. 15. I have traction alopecia and wear wigs and am crazy enough to believe God for restoring my hair follicles even though the doctors have said otherwise. 16. A movie is considered good only if it makes me cry...more than once. Sound of Music happens to be my all time favorite. 17. I really wish I sang well. I really don't. 18. Telling people about Jesus is my favorite past time. And if I'm not talking about Him, I'm talking about my family or some random health fact I learned on Google. 19. I love redemption stories and happy endings, that’s why I said yes to Jesus. Feel like you know me a little more? Well good! Please continue to stop by my little corner of cyber world. And do leave a comment. Remember I love to talk to people!

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K Johns

I am encouraged by this. To know I am not the only mommy in this struggle and to understand the daily calling God has for my life.

    Anika Jones

    We all need to be reminded that motherhood is a calling, and we are certainly not in it by ourselves even though it is so easy to feel this way. God is faithful! I am happy to know this blessed you because you have often encouraged me.

lashanda Lewis

This was such a great post thanks for sharing this. it helps so much!

    Anika Jones

    I am glad it did!

Jerri Clark

I’m thankful for your thoughts. I completely missed the “I Train” perspective while staying home with my daughter. I struggled with remembering the important role I played in her life while with me during the day. I now wish I could do it all over. But, I now know. Thank you.

    Anika Jones

    We all have seasons of life we wish we could do over. While we can’t return to the past, we can certainly ask The Lord to give us His perspective for the present; helping us to make the best of today.


Thanks for this, Anika. I realize where I’m doing them a disservice by taking the more ‘efficient’ way out (me doing things for them because it’s faster and will be done to my liking). And you’re right, our children see more than we think they do. Well done!

    Anika Jones

    Tamara I am glad you were able to make some connections while reading this post. It is so important to acknowledge our areas for improvement as the Lord reveals them to us and ask for his help. This humility causes His grace to flow at a greater level in our lives, which inevitably impact our parenting.


My youngest is 20. But after reading this, I wish I could go back and do it all over again. This was encouraging even to us who have gracefully moved beyond that stage of life.

    Anika Jones

    Jacqui thank you for your comments and I am happy to know that you were encouraged by what you read. I think most of us have things we wish we could do over. While we can’t do it over, we can ask God in His sovereignty to make up the difference. Be encouraged!

Carol Gordon

Excellent article…..you are spot on. Love your insight & your wisdom!! Encouraged by reading. My youngerst is almost 21, 22 yr old, and a married 27 year old. I stayed home with them from the ‘get go’, gave up a nice job to do so, and homeschooled (19 years). I wish I could say I had it all together, but I did not. However, no regrets making that choice to be home with them and ‘train’ them!! Did I screw up? Yep, daily, but God’s grace is sufficient! Training – as you have so wonderfully defined it – is such an all important job that is so many times overlooked, dismissed, and/or belittled. Thank you for sharing & for your transparency. God bless!

    Anika Jones

    Thank you for your comments Carol. I do agree, what we do as moms is often overlooked, dismissed and/or belittled. Unfortunately I have been guilty of doing all the above. I need God to daily remind me that what I do as a mom is VERY IMPORTANT and will have an eternal impact.


Praise the Lord!

    Anika Jones

    Yes He is always worthy of praise!

Debbie Richardson

I want you to know that I could have inserted my family photos in that post….that is how much I agree with you. I’m on the other end of that Training Journey….the last of the seven kids are teenagers and the oldest ones are in the thick of things learning how much training is required. I can tell you from the perspective of 30 years of parenting/training, that it must be done very intentionally. I can also say that God honors your efforts and your prayers. You will see the fruit of your labors…..I’m not saying everything is easy and will turn out close to what you thought it would….but I do know from experience that God honors his Word….He allows us to bear fruit that will last….and one day you will see that fruit being handed down to the next generation.

keep this somewhere to read in the hard days and weeks that inevitably come. It will fan the flame to keep you going.

debbie richardson

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