Do you know anyone who will shout all day about how others hurt them? Those individuals tend to be silent when the tables are turned, and they are the ones inflicting the pain. We can’t yell about how hurt we are when we are the ones offended, and then remain silent when we are the offender.
I have learned that I need to speak up when it is time to apologize. I must be willing to acknowledge and sincerely apologize when I hurt others. A true apology is given without an excuse for the action that offended the individual. Benjamin Franklin said, “Don’t ruin an apology with an excuse.” I apologize by taking ownership for what I did wrong. We don’t gain the respect of others because we always get it right. Instead, respect is earned when we are willing to be humble, avoid the temptation to blame others and admit what we did wrong.
Yes, God does tell us we are to forgive each other, even if there is no apology given. However, I am more likely to keep my distance from those who are too prideful to apologize for their wrongdoing, even after I have forgiven them. Pride kills relationships while a sincere apology can do wonders to restoring and strengthening them.
Is it difficult for you to take ownership for what you did wrong and apologize? Or, do you struggle in this area. Leave a comment, I would love to hear from you.
James 5:16 Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.
Mathew 5:23-24 “So if you are presenting a sacrifice[a] at the altar in the Temple and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you,24 leave your sacrifice there at the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God.