THE ANSWER FOR WHEN A PARENT FEELS INADEQUATE

I don’t always do this mommy thing right.  Some days leave me a frazzled mess and I just want to get under the covers and go back to bed. The call feels so much bigger than me and my inadequacies are on full display.  I sometimes get away with looking as if I have it all together from the outside, but come through my front door and sit with me long enough and the truth will be revealed.  My house is not always Pinterest clean, and my children are not always well behaved.

Being a parent is not for the faint of heart, there are so many twist and turns and unknowns.  All six of my children have distinct personalities and right when I think I have it figured out, they say or do something that leaves me scratching my head.  There are also days in which I honestly don’t know how to respond to them or respond in the wrong way.  Days in which I yell when I should listen or hastily move them along to the next task instead of pausing to give a hug. Then when I get to the end of the day guilt sets in and I put more emphasis on what I did wrong, how I should know better.

I am learning that I can’t give up and cry woe is me if I have a less than perfect day in parenting world.  If I put the emphasis on me always doing it right or knowing all the answers, I will always disappoint.  God has used parenting to pull back the layers and show me how I have made an idol of my wisdom and my perceived strength.  I have been guilty of taking my focus off of God and getting wrapped up in MY ABILITIES…great formula for failure.  However I am learning to embrace His mercies that are new every morning and humbly admit that I just cannot do this journey on my own.  I NEED GOD…DESPARATELY! I am more convinced more now than ever of my need to pray. But as always, when I seek Him from a humble and broken heart He answers, making for a more successful journey. How about you? What has your parenting journey been like? Has it been difficult for you to admit your need for God in the process?  Do you accept His wisdom when He gives it?  Leave a comment and let me know.

 

 

 

12 thoughts on “THE ANSWER FOR WHEN A PARENT FEELS INADEQUATE”

  1. Donielle says:

    I spend time with my students for a few hours daily and definitely rely on God for courage, strength and wisdom.

    1. Anika Jones says:

      For your position, you certainly need the Lord. May the Lord bless you as you minister to your students!

  2. Lashanda says:

    Parenting definitely isn’t easy for me. My 3 children keep me running every which way. I would love to say I have it all together and they are perfect but really God is the only one keeping things flowing. I have learned a lot of my 7 years of being a mother but I have a lot to learn but I thank God I have Jesus because he is the only one that can truly help and give me what I need. thanks for sharing your heart with us in this post.

    1. Anika Jones says:

      I too am thankful for Jesus, He is quite the need meeter. Thanks for your comment!

  3. K Johns says:

    This was encouraging today to read. I survived my kids first day back to school. By midday I was exhausted and by dinner I told them mommy needs a moment to eat before I move on to the next demand or request. Amen, for God’s grace to face another day.

    1. Anika Jones says:

      Nothing like His grace…NOTHING!

  4. Tamara says:

    I make mistakes over and over and over and over again. I love that you speak of making our own wisdom a god. I can only imagine how many uncomfortable situations/outcomes could have been avoided had I just prayed and asked God for His guidance. After all, he gave them to me, He must know a thing or two about to deal with them 🙂

    1. Anika Jones says:

      Yes Tamara, I know I have been guilty of forgetting that He wrote the manual for each of my children. He was the one that was knitting together in my womb and He had a specific purpose for each of them. He knows what it will take to get them to that purpose. We all need to try from His wisdom not our own for successful parenting. Thanks for the comment!

  5. Olayinka M. says:

    Thank you for sharing. I see many of my friends worrying and over compensating when parenting. We simply must learn to trust God when those feelings creep up because He blessed us with this great privilege…surely He will grant us the strength to fulfill this role.

    1. Anika Jones says:

      You open another can of worms when you mentioned parents over compensating and worrying. We all have to be guarded in this area…help me Lord! You are so right parenting is a privilege and too often we lose sight of this fact. Thanks for your insightful comment!

  6. And last but not least, I’m a grandmother and guardian of a seventeen year old. Believe me it’s very challenging and I cry out to God often and PTL, I’m seeing the results. I’m seeing God working in her and me, He’s the only One who can. Yes, God is good all the time and all the time God is good!!!

    1. Anika Jones says:

      Yes God is absolutely good! So happy to hear of the progress!

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