THE ANSWER FOR WHEN A PARENT FEELS INADEQUATE

I don’t always do this mommy thing right.  Some days leave me a frazzled mess and I just want to get under the covers and go back to bed. The call feels so much bigger than me and my inadequacies are on full display.  I sometimes get away with looking as if I have it all together from the outside, but come through my front door and sit with me long enough and the truth will be revealed.  My house is not always Pinterest clean, and my children are not always well behaved.

Being a parent is not for the faint of heart, there are so many twist and turns and unknowns.  All six of my children have distinct personalities and right when I think I have it figured out, they say or do something that leaves me scratching my head.  There are also days in which I honestly don’t know how to respond to them or respond in the wrong way.  Days in which I yell when I should listen or hastily move them along to the next task instead of pausing to give a hug. Then when I get to the end of the day guilt sets in and I put more emphasis on what I did wrong, how I should know better.

I am learning that I can’t give up and cry woe is me if I have a less than perfect day in parenting world.  If I put the emphasis on me always doing it right or knowing all the answers, I will always disappoint.  God has used parenting to pull back the layers and show me how I have made an idol of my wisdom and my perceived strength.  I have been guilty of taking my focus off of God and getting wrapped up in MY ABILITIES…great formula for failure.  However I am learning to embrace His mercies that are new every morning and humbly admit that I just cannot do this journey on my own.  I NEED GOD…DESPARATELY! I am more convinced more now than ever of my need to pray. But as always, when I seek Him from a humble and broken heart He answers, making for a more successful journey. How about you? What has your parenting journey been like? Has it been difficult for you to admit your need for God in the process?  Do you accept His wisdom when He gives it?  Leave a comment and let me know.

 

 

 

Anika Jones

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Anika Jones

Hello there! I am Anika and I am definitely one of those. Passion oozes from every fiber of my being. I love to love. Sounds cheesy, I know, but I already told you that I am one of those kinds of people. Read on to find out some more interesting facts about me… 1. I love me some Jesus. I love to testify and if you hang around me long enough you may hear me bragging on the awesomeness of God, like how • He gave me a house I couldn't afford • Healed two of my children • Gave me a yes when I wanted to say no 2. I married a younger man…OK, not really. I was 23 while he was 22. My birthday is in April and his in August, but it’s our running joke. Nevertheless, after 13 years of marriage, I happen to love him deeply, and it still makes for a great story. 3. I have experienced the pain of two miscarriages and the joy of delivering 6 children (3 boys and 3 girls). I have both a bachelors and masters degree from the University of Illinois Urbana-Champaign in Early Childhood Education, which I put to good use staying home with the kiddos. 4. I attend an awesome church where my husband is the Assistant Pastor. I am also a part of a not for profit organization that encourages women to walk in their God given purpose. 5. I am addicted to prayer. 6. I am considered nice by most, definitely extreme by design. I am politically incorrect. 7. I take the scenic route when telling a story, but I promise if you hang on long enough, I eventually get to the punch line. 8. I have great ideas but I sometimes procrastinate. Jesus and I are working on that one. 9. I am guilty of overthinking things (refer to number 8). 10. I am originally from Jamaica. Surprise…sunshine and coconuts are two of my favorite things. 11. I subscribe to the Paleo Diet and actually did a round of Whole 30. 12. I love to experiment in the kitchen. 13. I make an absolute mess when I cook. I try to clean as I go but get distracted with cooking. Go figure. (My family doesn't always enjoy my cooking but I make them eat it anyway.) 14. I love people and enjoy talking to them—even the weird ones. I tried being otherwise but found it doesn't suit me well, so I'm learning to be okay with being me. 15. I have traction alopecia and wear wigs and am crazy enough to believe God for restoring my hair follicles even though the doctors have said otherwise. 16. A movie is considered good only if it makes me cry...more than once. Sound of Music happens to be my all time favorite. 17. I really wish I sang well. I really don't. 18. Telling people about Jesus is my favorite past time. And if I'm not talking about Him, I'm talking about my family or some random health fact I learned on Google. 19. I love redemption stories and happy endings, that’s why I said yes to Jesus. Feel like you know me a little more? Well good! Please continue to stop by my little corner of cyber world. And do leave a comment. Remember I love to talk to people!

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D Robinson

I spend time with my students for a few hours daily and definitely rely on God for courage, strength and wisdom.

    Anika Jones

    For your position, you certainly need the Lord. May the Lord bless you as you minister to your students!

lashanda Lewis

Parenting definitely isn’t easy for me. My 3 children keep me running every which way. I would love to say I have it all together and they are perfect but really God is the only one keeping things flowing. I have learned a lot of my 7 years of being a mother but I have a lot to learn but I thank God I have Jesus because he is the only one that can truly help and give me what I need. thanks for sharing your heart with us in this post.

    Anika Jones

    I too am thankful for Jesus, He is quite the need meeter. Thanks for your comment!

K Johns

This was encouraging today to read. I survived my kids first day back to school. By midday I was exhausted and by dinner I told them mommy needs a moment to eat before I move on to the next demand or request. Amen, for God’s grace to face another day.

    Anika Jones

    Nothing like His grace…NOTHING!

Tamara

I make mistakes over and over and over and over again. I love that you speak of making our own wisdom a god. I can only imagine how many uncomfortable situations/outcomes could have been avoided had I just prayed and asked God for His guidance. After all, he gave them to me, He must know a thing or two about to deal with them 🙂

    Anika Jones

    Yes Tamara, I know I have been guilty of forgetting that He wrote the manual for each of my children. He was the one that was knitting together in my womb and He had a specific purpose for each of them. He knows what it will take to get them to that purpose. We all need to try from His wisdom not our own for successful parenting. Thanks for the comment!

Olayinka M.

Thank you for sharing. I see many of my friends worrying and over compensating when parenting. We simply must learn to trust God when those feelings creep up because He blessed us with this great privilege…surely He will grant us the strength to fulfill this role.

    Anika Jones

    You open another can of worms when you mentioned parents over compensating and worrying. We all have to be guarded in this area…help me Lord! You are so right parenting is a privilege and too often we lose sight of this fact. Thanks for your insightful comment!

cjc51

And last but not least, I’m a grandmother and guardian of a seventeen year old. Believe me it’s very challenging and I cry out to God often and PTL, I’m seeing the results. I’m seeing God working in her and me, He’s the only One who can. Yes, God is good all the time and all the time God is good!!!

    Anika Jones

    Yes God is absolutely good! So happy to hear of the progress!

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