20 Years Later! Marriage Anniversary


I make non toxic skin and hair products, and he would have been just as content using Vaseline.

I take the scenic route when telling a story. He hits the highlights and keeps it moving.

I hear I can be impulsive. Most of his moves are calculated.

I live for adventure; he thrives on stability and predictability.

I color outside the line with the brightest color in the box. He thinks of how we can keep the crayons more organized and how to draw neat lines.

I am often a tad bit late. He prefers to show up a few minutes early.

I like to make announcements and process out loud. He moves silently and has to be encouraged to share his thoughts.

I look for ways to hang out after an event and connect with people; he looks for ways we can politely excuse ourselves and go home to solitude.

If we were emojis, I would be ? ? , he would be ? ? .

I love poetry and working with words, he’s a math teacher.

I journal, he makes to do list.

I like to stop and smell the roses, he’s thinking of ways to grow future roses.

There were many times over the last twenty years where we allowed our differences to create conflict in our marriage. Times where we were more concerned about the other conforming to what we wanted instead of conforming into the image of God. The other day, we were talking and reflecting about these last twenty years and he told me he appreciates that we have reached a place in our marriage where we embrace our differences instead of making it a source of contention. We are learning to agree to disagree on the minor things, but making sure we agree on what’s most important, and that would be to keep Jesus at the center of our marriage. We are similar in that we are keeping our eyes fixed on eternity, realizing that our marriage is bigger than us. It is about the Kingdom; it is about the King and how our union can bring Him glory! Embracing this perspective has brought sweetness and contentment to our covenant.

So yes, we are different in many ways BUT our common love for Jesus has kept us together these 20 years! It’s been a journey, one that has not always been easy but absolutely worth it! This man loves me well AND as a bonus, he still can make my head turn when he walks in the room! He covers his family well and is one of the hardest working, focused and dependable man I know. He has earned not only my love but my respect! I am honored to be his wife!

Anika Jones

About the Author

Anika Jones

Anika Jones is a speaker and author of the book Lessons Learned Along The Way: A 40 Day Devotional. She blogs about faith and family at LivingForLater.com and posts weekly videos on her YouTube channels, Living For Later (@livingforlater) and Living Life Now (@livinglifenow). Anika loves speaking about developing intimacy with God and understanding who we are in Christ. She serves alongside her husband in ministry. They live in Illinois with their 6 children.