I get it. Training is hard work and it is sometimes easier doing things on our own. However, training children to help out at home is beneficial to both parent and child. It is so easy for parents to burn out and become resentful because we do it all. When we set expectations and train our children to help, it lays a great foundation for the future. Listen to the below clip from my YouTube channel on this thought and don’t forget to subscribe. Leave a comment and let me know how your children help out at home. I would love to hear from you!
There is a lot that pulls at me but when I parent, I have to prioritize eternity.
This is simply not an option
I want my love for Jesus to be contagious
I want my days to be spent bringing Him glory even in the mundane.
I feel these children watching my every action, weighing them more than they do my words.
I am learning it’s beyond taking them to church and reading them bible stories so that they can know the facts.
Most of us have the right answers, but do we live it?
Beyond knowledge of the word, I want them to have a relationship with the word that became flesh.
More than anything I want them to know Jesus as their own.
This is not automatic. I must be intentional. I can’t give to my children what I don’t have. Every day I have an option; do I seek His face or seek to do my will?
Seems like a simple answer but life has a way of complicating simple matters
If I let it
These last 12 years of parenting has taught me that children are more discerning than I previously thought. They can smell a hypocrite from miles away.
I tell them to get in their word, but do they see me on my laptop more than they see me reading my bible?
I tell them to pray and bring their worries to the Lord but do they see me on the phone more than they see me on my knees?
I tell them to have self-control but do they see me eating my worries away?
I tell them to be a servant but do they hear me murmur and complain about all the domestic chores I am CALLED to do?
I tell them to fully obey but do they see me practicing selective obedience because I am good and grown?
Honest questions that deserve honest answers. And did I mention, a hypocrite can do some serious damage to innocent bystanders.
How do I steward these 6 blessings the Lord has given me?
The call of motherhood is weighty. It can be sobering to think that my actions can either draw them or turn them away from Jesus.
MY ACTIONS CAN DETERMINE WHERE THEY SPEND ETERNITY!
Yes, I am fully aware that I can’t chose Jesus for my children but my actions can make the choice more appealing.
So I pray real hard
For grace to mother the way my Father wants me to.
For the right focus to seek the Kingdom of God first and then relax knowing that all these others things will be added!
For the discipline to push the distractions to the side , silencing the unnecessary noise so that I can hear and respond to His still small voice(Social media and all her kinfolks, relationships that pull me away from Jesus, thoughts that are trespassing on God’s property…my Mind …just to name a few).
Yes Ma’am I have been called to something big…I have to introduce Jesus to my children!
I get it. I am a mother of six. I know that it can sometimes be challenging to find time to spend with the Lord. However, it is not impossible! Watch the attached video for a few practical tips. How do you find time to spend with the Lord? Leave me a comment, I would love to know.
My pastor mentioned this Sunday that the devil always comes with His “A” game. While the devil is on the attack, prayer is a powerful weapon against the enemy. I want my children to be spiritually successful so I try to emphasize the importance of prayer. Below are some tips to teach your child to pray.
How about you? What have you done to help your child learn how to pray? Leave a comment below and let me know.
Each day I have a God given purpose and I must be intentional about fulfilling it. Having a schedule helps me to effectively manage my time, be more focused and provides direction for my day. It brings a sense of order and discourages me from being lazy and idle. “Winging” it every day leads to unproductivity and lots of frustration. With all that said, below are some important tips to consider to help you create a schedule that works for you.
We are good at bringing God only the “big” things. However God has specific tasks for us to accomplish each day, which is part of the bigger picture for His purpose for our life. Take the time and ask the Lord what your schedule should look like. This means that you will have to spend time in prayer. Trust me when I say this is not a small matter, seeking the Lord’s face on what you should do and when you should do it makes for a more productive day.
Knowing the answer to this question helps you to prioritize doing the most difficult task when you have the most energy. For example I am totally a morning person so I do most of my cooking and cleaning in the morning. If I wait until the evening, I am absolutely drained and the quality of the completed task is greatly compromised because I am tired. I reserve the evening for doing homework with the children, giving them face time and less demanding household task. So often we get annoyed with our children because we see them as distracting us from our work. However when we are careful with our planning, some of this frustrations can be eliminated. I have six children so I realize that even with careful planning, some children are needier than others but a schedule is a great start
Having established routines is important and it helps to take away a lot of the guess work out the day. I not only answer this question for myself but I also include the children in the process. They also have things that they must do on a daily and weekly basis. Established routines helps to set clear expectations for everyone in the home and minimizes a lot of frustration and repeating of oneself. Note: notice how I said a lot of the frustration and not all….children and adults alike know how to get you to repeat yourself…amen. When you are trying to establish a routine, be prepared to hit repeat over and over again. PRAYEFULLY everyone will eventually catch on to the routines. Be patient and BREATHE!
This is so important to do. My me time may just be 30 minutes on some days and 1 hour another. However as a stay at home mom I can become resentful about doing for everyone else and not for myself. I had to get over feeling like this was selfish, it is needed. I typically have my me time while the younger ones are napping. During this time I pick something that will refresh me in some way. It may be browsing Pinterest and admiring all the projects that I can’t fit in my schedule (just keeping it real here folks)…nothing wrong with a little dreaming. I may take a nap, give myself a pedicure or call a friend. But again, this is something just for me.
Let us be real with ourselves when answering this question. I know that surfing the internet can be a huge distraction for me and totally take me off schedule. To combat this issue, I put certain parameters in place. I may set a timer to remind me that it is time to get off or I may deliberately wait until I know I have only a limited time because I have to go somewhere. This restricts my time and I have no option but to get off.
During the school year, I try not to turn on my cell phone until I have completed most of my necessary tasks. Having the phone on first thing in the morning can be a HUGE distraction because there is someone or something that is demanding your attention. There are times when I do have to turn it on in the morning when I leave the house. However, I turn it off once I get home because if anyone really needs to get in touch with me, they can call the house phone. I also don’t have Facebook or other social media notifications coming to my phone because it is so easy to get drawn in. Since I am a blogger, I get on Facebook most days to see if I need to respond to any comments from my posts. I try to restrict my time and may only visit my page on some days.
There are times when the unexpected happens and I have to forgo my schedule and deal with the issue at hand. There are also days in which the Holy Spirit takes me off schedule and leads me in a different direction. I try to yield to His voice. So while I promote a schedule, I also encourage you to not hold too tightly to it and miss the voice of the Holy Spirit. I would love to hear from you. Do you have a schedule? What are some of the things you consider when creating one? Do you think that having a schedule is helpful?
Psalm 37:5 (NLT)
I don’t always do this mommy thing right. Some days leave me a frazzled mess and I just want to get under the covers and go back to bed. The call feels so much bigger than me and my inadequacies are on full display. I sometimes get away with looking as if I have it all together from the outside, but come through my front door and sit with me long enough and the truth will be revealed. My house is not always Pinterest clean, and my children are not always well behaved.
Being a parent is not for the faint of heart, there are so many twist and turns and unknowns. All six of my children have distinct personalities and right when I think I have it figured out, they say or do something that leaves me scratching my head. There are also days in which I honestly don’t know how to respond to them or respond in the wrong way. Days in which I yell when I should listen or hastily move them along to the next task instead of pausing to give a hug. Then when I get to the end of the day guilt sets in and I put more emphasis on what I did wrong, how I should know better.
I am learning that I can’t give up and cry woe is me if I have a less than perfect day in parenting world. If I put the emphasis on me always doing it right or knowing all the answers, I will always disappoint. God has used parenting to pull back the layers and show me how I have made an idol of my wisdom and my perceived strength. I have been guilty of taking my focus off of God and getting wrapped up in MY ABILITIES…great formula for failure. However I am learning to embrace His mercies that are new every morning and humbly admit that I just cannot do this journey on my own. I NEED GOD…DESPARATELY! I am more convinced more now than ever of my need to pray. But as always, when I seek Him from a humble and broken heart He answers, making for a more successful journey. How about you? What has your parenting journey been like? Has it been difficult for you to admit your need for God in the process? Do you accept His wisdom when He gives it? Leave a comment and let me know.